Love: Deep Soul Connection - 1

Profound ways to connect at a much deeper level.

There are a lot of things I talk about to help couples grow their marriage. Deep soul connection is a 10+ on a one to ten scale. What is deep soul connection?  It involves a profound emotional, spiritual and physiological bond between a husband and a wife. To me that means we can go deep beyond the surface level with each other. It is creating the most intimate of intimate times together. It is reaching to the very core of each other in ways that are significant and have great meaning. It is way beyond casual feelings and creates a lasting impact on both the husband and the wife. Now let’s look at three ways to get there this week and three more next week.

1. Emotional Elements:

   1. Having complete emotional safety to be vulnerable. I know it is hard to get to this place and stay there but it is worth the effort. Begin with baby steps. When your spouse takes this step, your role is to receive it without judgment. Judgment and criticism will tank this before you barely get started

   2. Share both your joys and pains authentically. Come alongside each other in these times.

   3. Experience empathy at a deep level.  It is putting yourself in their shoes and staying there until you get it.

   4. Sensing each other's emotional states intuitively. That comes from being a student of your spouse. It takes practice but you can do it!

2. Spiritual Components:

   1. Praying together with genuine openness. This takes praying together to a new level. It is praying from your heart all that is on your heart.

   2. Sharing spiritual insights and growth. We all grow at different paces. Sharing with each other what God is teaching you, helps you both grow.

   3. Finding God's presence in your relationship. Invite God into the middle of your marriage. Take everything before Him. God will never do anything in your marriage that is not good for both of you.

   4. Growing together in faith and purpose. What is God calling you to do? How does He want you to live out your faith together?

3. Psychological Aspects:

   1. Deep trust and security is one of the greatest gifts you can give your marriage. Talk about where you rate this now in your marriage and what it will take to move it up a point or two.

   2. Unconditional acceptance. This is tough but the more you grow together spiritually, the more grace you can give each other. The more of God’s love you experience, the more you can love others in the same way.

   3. Shared dreams and life vision. This is a fun thing to do. What would you want your lives and your marriage to look like in a year, five years or ten years?

   4. Being fully present with each other. When you are together what keeps you from truly being fully present with each other? Whatever you identify, what can you do about it?

I would love for you to go over these together with your spouse. See what areas you are doing well and what areas you need to grow in. Next week, I will continue this short series and we look at some of the key mistakes couples make regarding spiritual intimacy.